You may feel a temptation to rush into a relationship, go all in, and miss all the red flags. Here are some tips to not get attached too soon.
Intentionally Manage The Pace of The Relationship
Your emotions have a strong influence over you, and you love the highs of dating someone new and exciting. It’s better to regulate your speed and stay tuned so your clear-thinking logical brain has time to process, see the big picture, and be skeptical.
Keep your dates down to once a week. This can be challenging, as it may require you to turn down opportunities to see the person sooner.
Limit the time you are thinking about this person. Don’t make them the center of your life immediately.
Stay Centered and Grounded
Keep hanging out with friends and focusing on your hobbies, rituals and routines
Date other people (as long as it decreases your anxiety)
Try to stay present and attentive, remembering things they said and getting curious about what they might say about them. Stay tuned in to the emotions that the person evokes within you.
Remind yourself that you are still getting to know this person and that they are a virtual stranger. It can take months or years to see who a person really is.
Watch for these 3 signs
-Lack of EMPATHY
-Lack of PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
-Lack of SELF-CONTROL
Stay focused on a moderate & healthy….
- PACE (frequency of contact)
- DEPTH (how close you get)
- TIME (spent)
These three things give you TIME and CLARITY to
-learn what you need to know
-ask all the questions that are yours to ask
-press further into pink or yellow flags and see where they really are with it
-have enough direct one to one experiences to know how they respond to stress
-how to they handle when they don’t get something they really want