Causes
Satisfactory parenting, which conferred a felt sense of safety, soothing, feeling valued and understood.
Traits
Communicates and negotiates
Is not afraid of confrontation, and difficult conversations
Forgives and apologizes easily
Expects others to be somewhat reliable
Gives partners a chance, but will leave if they do not feel a healthy dynamic
Reliable and consistent
Involves partner in decisions and good at finding win/win solutions
Not afraid of commitment
Emotionally expressive,
Comfortable with closeness and vulnerability
Doesn’t play games
How Experienced by Others
Safe, wholesome, healthy
May be experienced as boring by insecure styles
Underlying Beliefs
High view of self; high view of others